The F word that heals
one of the most powerful words in our language. To hold anger, bitterness and resentment, no matter how justified will damage the self as well as others. Holding these harsh emotions converts to toxins in our bodies and makes us ill. This doesn't mean that what was done to us is right, but releasing it's hold on us is critical. We need to include looking at our own life decisions also and forgive ourselves for our harsh judgement towards them too. Steering ourselves in the direction of a life motivated by love, inspiration, kindness and wonder rather than competition, fear or anger
The revered Zen monk Thich Nhat Hanh has a wonderful teaching on dealing with forgiveness. In the film The Power of Forgiveness
, he is seen reciting his mediation for the “many angry sons and daughters”. In a soft, measured voice he instructs, in meditative breathing, a room full of people who want to move on: “breathing in I see myself as a 5-year-old child; breathing out I hold that 5-year-old child with tenderness. Breathing in I see my father as a 5-year-old boy; breathing out I smile to my father as a 5-year-old boy”. The point is that only when you are able to visualize your father as a fragile and vulnerable 5-year-old, can you begin to understand and feel compassion for the person he has become.
Thich Nhat Hanh explains that you must move from this place of animosity because if you are full of anger you only cause more suffering to yourself as well as to the person you’re angry at –“that is why,” he concludes, “those who are wise do not want to do anything when in a place of anger. When you are calm and lucid, you see that the other person is a victim of confusion, of hate and of violence transmitted by society, by parents, by friends, by environment. And when you are able to do that you’re anger is no longer there.”
Nurture yourself with forgiveness. It's ripple effect truly heals on multiple levels.
with love and gratitude for you, I remain
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